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Dear Dan Savage, just stop talking about Bisexuals, it’s clear you know NOTHING about us.
I already didn’t like Dan Savage… but goddamn now I’m just bursting with anger. How the fuck, just how the everliving fuck does he even fix his mouth to spout the shit about bisexuals that he continues to let out into the ether?
Via AngryBlackTumblr: Bisexuals You Need to Come Out to Your Friends and Spouses—Now
Dear Dan Savage,
You know his claim as to why Bi’s NEED to come out? So we can basically stop whining about being invisible and do something and claim our spot in the community. You know what, fuck and you Savage.
No one should be forced to be out, in case you haven’t noticed not everyone can safely be out no matter their orientation. A lot of people can’t be out because they will lose their homes, their jobs, their kids, be threatened with bodily harm, and the list goes on. I should not have to declare myself at the LGBTQIA community border for your comfort. I don’t have to declare my orientation so you can pigeon hole me, continually treat me as a red-headed step child in the family because I supposedly can run back to hetero privilege whenever I get too scared.
You don’t speak for me Savage. You don’t get to draw lines in the sand and declare that my bisexuality is valid only because of my age. You don’t get to deny those teen boys (notice girls aren’t even on his radar as valid) their orientation because you claimed being bi as a teen. You are not them, they are not you and you are not the fucking mouthpiece of the entire LGBTQIA movement.
You preach that it gets better for some, but you are employing the same divisive tactics that anti-gay leaning folks use on the community. Just stop talking about things you don’t know, you don’t understand and for fucks sake stop posturing yourself as the be-all-end-all pundit of queer issues. Stick to what you know, which isn’t much.
No love,
Me
ETA: Just a few links I found while Googling Dan Savage + Bisexuality. Almost all links point to some bi-phobic shit he’s said in the past and never apologized for. Come at me again with how he’s not bi-phobic and I’m going to laugh at you.
A brief thinky post on the Wiscon situation and disinviting EMoon as GOH
This will be brief and entirely ineloquent because I am sick and cannot brain well. In short, disinviting E Moon as GOH is NOT FUCKING SILENCING HER! Reposting her own words for the world to see is NOT BULLYING HER! All these people whinging about how evil the mean brown people are, how they wheedled the comcon into disinviting her to be GOH need to just shut the fuck up, as in NOW.
I’m tired of people crying about Moon being silenced, and persecuted and all that other bullshit. She shat on the living room carpet, threw a blanket over it and continued to act as if there was nothing there. Her continued silence, refusal to discuss the issue and then the concom taking a while to make up their minds while staying conspicuously quiet is the issue.
I’m sick of people throwing tantrums in the Wiscon LJ comm about how meen this was, and rude, etc etc to disinvite Moon and stamping their feet and saying they aren’t coming now because the Con obviously isn’t for them.
GOOD, I don’t want my con experience ruined by whiny ass people who think its all about them and can’t see why Moon’s screed was so damn problematic. Also, if you can’t realize how much her words hurt our Muslim sisters and brothers, then I suggest you revisit Civics class, Privilege and Classism as well as Racism 101.
Many, many other people have said their piece on why the whole issue and how it was handled is problematic. See the
wiscon,
karnythia,
yuki_onna,
nojojojo and K. Tempest Bradford sums up my feelings perfectly with You People are out of your Goddamned Minds
My smiles are not for you, random man on the street
I’ve had the issue of women being treated as property, as if (some) men think we are here for their pleasure only, as if we are to be honored by your hey baby, how you doin’s as we go about our daily lives, but instead when we ignore you, tell you to fuck off or just keep walking the insults flow freely.
Instead of understanding that women are not chattel, we do not exist to please you… you revert to mental infancy and call us sluts, whores, bitches… ask if we think we’re too good for you, or won’t we just FUCKING SMILE, after all it was a compliment I paid you, damn why you have to be like that. The litany could go on forever but you get my point.
After a post by karnythia on creepy ass man following her and try8ing to intimidate her, and the story of the MTA passenger who just needed some help but instead was asked out for a date by an employee, this topic has boiled over in my head and needs to be let out.
I know men don’t understand that life is different for women, in that alot of us are raised to be leery of unknown men, especially ones that approach us on the street. It’s something that keeps you safe and can save your life, because you never know when a dude is just trying to be a harmless flirt or a serial killer or rapist. I know its harsh, but you (men who think you’re doing us a favor by hollering on the street)don’t know our lives, our stories, what kind of baggage we’re carrying around.
That woman whose arm you try to grab so you can “talk to her” could be a rape survivor, she could be on the way home after being laid off from a job, or getting some other bad news. She could not be smiling because she just found out her grandmother died or she failed a test, or for any number of reasons. You never know what a person has going on in their head, and presuming that she should give you the gift of her smile, her time just because you’re a man is pretty damn arrogant.
Thinking that women should be honored because you deign to throw some two bit line our way on the street, or talk about us as if we’re nothing more than walking tits, ass and vagina’s put on display for your approval and usage speaks volumes about how little you know about women or the real world. I don’t speak for all women, but I think anyone with a shred of self-respect wouldn’t bother with a trifling ass man who thinks the way into a womans heart is to talk about that ass, and how you’d give her what for.
Men, at least the men who think that this is a GOOD IDEA and women should be grateful for your attention… realize we don’t owe you a motherfucking thing. We don’t owe you our time, our energy, our bodies or our smiles.
Lastly, posted this in a comment to an earlier post of mine and it needs to be seen, and reposted far and wide.
You’ve got to be kidding me, I really hope so
This has got to be the stupidest thing I’ve seen yet in this election. Its not from an official source but its still unbelievably stupid that anyone could come up with this shit.

Really, who sits around thinking black folks are just waiting for the chance to enslave white folks in retribution for slavery? Not to say there’s not a small sense of poetic justice of entertaining the fantasy, but really who could think this shit up and really give it more than 10 seconds of thought?
Stupid ass people, I swear.
Swiped from LJ’er Karnythia
Racism & Queer issues rant… you’re warned so leave now if you want
Everything under a cut just cause I don’t random assholes picking an e-fight with me over my opinions, again.
It’s shit like the commentary below that makes me go ballistic
With all the miscegenation hoo ha going on in Daily Deviant, some American hating know it all decided to blow their horn on the semantic battle going on in D_D. I can understand if you have issues with American Privilege, but at least come back with a better argument than Americans are all greedy scum who think they can boss the world around!
Some days I want to shake some sense into a bitch
What follows after the jump is their comment and my response. Read more…
I think this will be my new blogging home for a while…
I’m sick of Livejournal and the bullshit there… I’m thinking of keeping this as my main blogging home in the foreseeable future, and paying for upgrades here rather than on LJ. My paid time expires soon and I’ll likely let it go and only link an RSS feed to x-posting for anyone who wants to keep up with me.
Anyway… I should get back to work but I’ll be around somwhere on the blogosphere.
I think I’m having an angry black woman moment
This post from the Livejournal Stupid Free community made me have a “kill whitey” moment in my head. The original offending post is so full of ignorant, racist wankery macro’s I won’t even link to it. I admit I have my moments of race humor, I can find humor in some things most folk consider ignorant, and even racist.
But to post those kinds of images, then backpedal with I know its not funny! Srsly I have a black friend, two even! Makes my fucking blood boil.
Some more fuel for the fire… from theangryblackwoman blog is an article about hair, and specifically the fascination with black women’s hair.
To be continued…
Race wank runs amok…on the internet, where else? :/
So, I fell prey to the race wank in liberal perpetrated first by user conceptualpete when he did what I hope was a trollish post on black reparations. Then today user malasadas comes back with a discussion on race wank in LiveJourna
I then dropped masalada’s post and the wankery in the comments that ensued.
I just don’t know why I even bother to try somedays. I just have to accept that Race Wank will always be a big part of online life. Part of me wants to just delete the whole post on the LJ liberal community wankery but some part of me is enjoying it too.
Oh well back to watching my inbox explode.






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